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Domestic Violence and Young People

Domestic Violence (also called Domestic Abuse) is a crime and a major social problem affecting many families. In 90% of reported domestic violence incidents, children have either been present in the same or a nearby room.

What is Domestic Violence?

The Government in the Domestic Violence, Crime and Victims Act 2004, defines domestic violence as ‘any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults who are, or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexual orientation’. These can mean:

  • Putting the person down or making the victim feel bad about themselves
  • Playing mind-games and making the person feel they are stupid or going mad
  • Enforced isolation from family or friends
  • Trying to keep the person from getting a job
  • Making the person ask for money or withholding money
  • Actual or threatened physical harm
  • Making another person do sexual things against their will
  • Making someone afraid by smashing things and destroying things
  • Making or carrying out threats to hurt someone emotionally – threatening to take the children, run away or commit suicide.

IN IMMEDIATE DANGER?
Call 999 now

NEED TO TALK?
Call 0800 000000

Domestic violence is a crime
Never hesitate to call the police who have specialist domestic violence officers trained to help children and put you in touch with other agencies who can help you with safety planning, housing issues, drug or alcohol problems or give details of solicitors who can assist you with the legal side of things.

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Effects upon children?

Children are affected in many ways by abuse, even after a short time.  These effects include:

  • Feeling frightened,
  • Becoming withdrawn,
  • Bedwetting,
  • Running away,
  • Aggressiveness,
  • Behavioural difficulties,
  • Problems with school,
  • Poor concentration,
  • Emotional turmoil.

The longer children are exposed to abuse, the more severe the effects on them are. These can include:

  • A lack of respect for the non-violent parent
  • Loss of self-confidence, which will affect their ability to form relationships in the future
  • Being over-protective of a parent
  • Loss of childhood
  • Problems at school
  • Running away

How does it affect children?

Domestic violence may teach children to use violence

Violence can affect children in serious and long-lasting ways

Where there is domestic violence there is often child abuse

Children will often blame themselves for domestic violence

Alcohol misuse is very common contributing factor when violence occurs in families

Pregnant women are more vulnerable to domestic violence.

sad child

Children who witness, intervene or hear incidents are affected in many ways. What can be guaranteed is that children do hear, they do see and they are aware of abuse in the family. Children will learn how to behave from examples parents set for them. Domestic violence teaches children negative things about relationships and how to deal with people. For instance:

  • It can teach them that violence is an acceptable way to resolve conflict
  • They learn how to keep secrets
  • They learn to mistrust those close to them and that children are responsible and to blame for violence, especially if violence erupts after an argument about the children.

Many people find it difficult to understand why people remain in or return to abusive violent situations. A combination of fear, love, the risk of homelessness and financial issues can make it very difficult for partners with children to leave and some may not want to.

What can I do?

Confidential Advice & Support

If you are experiencing domestic abuse, you can get confidential advice and support from:

Newham One-Stop-Shop (Every Monday, 9.30am – 12.30pm)
Stratford Advice Arcade
107-109 The Grove

Stratford
London
E15 1HP

You can phone

In case of emergency, please dial 999

Newham Action Against Domestic Violence: 0207 473 3047
(Mon- Fri 9am – 5pm)

Aanchal Asian Women’s Aid Helpline: 0845 451 2547
(24 hr)

Newham Police Community Safety Unit on:  101

Cambridgeshire Police on: 101

East London Rape Crisis Service: 0207 683 1210

National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247

Rape Crisis London:  0808 802 9999

National Domestic Violence Helpline:  0808 2000 247
(24 hour freephone)

NSPCC Helpline: 0808 800 5000,

NSPCC Textphone: 0800 056 0566

Parentline: 0808 800 2222

Childline: 0800 1111

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